“You Don’t Say?”

“Hello. I’m Sam and I have low self-confidence.”


Everything I ever talk about I speak upon because I myself deal/have dealt with a situation and see it in everyday life.

One of the hardest things for me to do, as an introvert, is to meet new people. So much so, I finished my last semester of college completely online, to not have to do this. Some may say that’s weird, I say it’s a genius move. But opinions. When I meet new people I get weird you could say. Conversation with me is terrible, especially small talk. So for future reference, I apologize. I get nervous and either don’t say much or talk way too much. I enjoy meeting new people and being able to share my story, but it isn’t exactly easy. I think (OPINION) it is hard to meet new people and allow them into your lives. Individually and group-ally(?). What I mean is a lot of times our first instinct when we see someone new is to notice their “differences”. We compare. Our clothes to theirs. Our hair to theirs. Our dialect to theirs. Our smell to theirs. It’s the truth. I took psychology classes. It’s true for Christians and non-Christians. It’s human nature. Take a look at these verses:

“Act wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time. Your speech should always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.”

Colossians 4:5-6

We have insecurities and the easiest ways to cover those “bad things about me” is to uncover “bad things about them.” It’s normal. And easy at that. When someone enters a room we analyze them. We do it to people we love. People we know. And people we have never met. So, what’s the first thing we do? “Do you see that guy? What’s the deal, my man? *childish giggles*”. Outsiders make us insiders look better. But, what is the answer? First, we’re supposed to love people. Could you imagine if instead of picking out something negative about someone the first time we see them and say something to someone else we introduced ourselves? “Hi. My name is Blah-Blah and I *insert any flaw here*”. It sounds ridiculous I know, but think about it. How much easier would it be to accept people?

Paul tells the Colossians  to act wisely toward outsiders, speaking graciously and seasoned with salt. This means speak salty towards others. Positively salty. Full-of-love salty. Seasoned with Jesus. In Matthew 5 Jesus calls his disciples to be the salt of the earth. To be salt, which is used for flavor, is to flavor the earth with love with Jesus. Everything we say to people should be filled with love. Everything we say behind someone’s back should be filled with love. WHAAAAAAT? Yeah. Every person we come into contact with is created in the image of God. Everyone we meet is able to be loved. Some are harder to love than others, yes. But we are instructed to speak to everyone in love. Everything we say should build others up.

We love because we are loved (1 John 4:19). What is Jesus pointed out everything wrong or different about us when we came to Him? Not very inviting, right? How can we expect people to come to us individually and as the church when they fear what we will say or assume about them? Follower of Jesus are people. Sometimes we’re ugly. Sometimes we smell. Sometimes our clothes don’t match. We are outsiders, too. Everyone is at one point an outsider. It is so important to bring in “outsiders.” It’s so important to love “insiders.” Love people. Speak to people with love. Make them a part of you. Welcome them as Jesus welcomes you.

I got flaws. You got flaws. He got flaws. She got flaws. Everybody has flaws. Jesus is flawless. Jesus’s love is flawless. Love others in the same flawless way, in speech and action.

Speak in love.

Eat some ice cream. Or an oreo. Or a biscuit.





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